How many Moms out there feel like they have failed in some way, shape or form every day?
Come on ladies, I know I’m not the only one who feels this way. It’s inevitable, it’s going to happen some time or another, but when it does happen remember that in the eyes of your child(ren) you are Super Mom! 💜
I remember the first time I doubted myself. I had just given birth to my oldest. I was breastfeeding and my milk had finally came in. My son could not latch on, my breasts were hurting and they felt like they were on fire. My son was crying, I was crying and I felt like a complete failure.
My Momma’s shoulder was badly injured from work, so my Daddy came to the rescue! He went to the store and returned with a breast pump, more lanolin cream and more nursing bras. I was able to express a little milk so that my son could latch on and then all was good. I felt relief, my son had a full belly again and I was forever grateful for my wonderful parent’s help.
That wasn’t the end of my failure days though. As life went on I continued to doubt my mothering skills, second guess my decisions and question myself on a daily basis…it has never stopped.
To be honest, I still struggle daily.
I still think “How can I be a better Momma?”, every single day. Some days I breakdown and cry, and some days I seek advice.
I will never forget the wonderful advice my Momma gave me a several years ago…
I had given birth to my third child. My second child (who was 2.5 years old at the time) started pulling her hair out. We would find balls of her hair under her pillow, in her room by her toys, everywhere. My pediatrician recommended involving her with all my daily duties…breastfeeding (she would sit with me), changing diapers (she handed me all my supplies), and all the other daily things. I still felt like it was my fault though. She wasn’t getting the attention she needed and that was my fault.
Then one day I broke down completely, I was crying and decided to talk to my Momma (the wisest woman I know). She said (and I’m totally paraphrasing because I can’t remember her exact words), “When we feel like we are doing all the right things and we think we are awesome, then we are probably messing up and overlooking a lot, but if we are constantly doubting ourselves and in turn constantly trying to be better than we were the day before, then we are probably better than we even know.”
So I am happy that I am constantly trying to be better than I was the day before. I’m happy that I see my failures and try my best to fix them. I am happy to know that I am far from the perfect Mom…but I’m also happy that in the eyes of my children, I’m Super Mom! 💜